Friend today, boyfriend tomorrow; or boyfriend today, friend tomorrow. Sometimes your boyfriend, is the ex of your friend, and that of your other friend.
Sometimes one can find a partner online or in a party and lose him or her, after a week. And many other roller coaster changes in relationships. I am not saying that this is an absolute thing but these things do happen.
About 20 years ago, it is so damn difficult for a boy to court a girl. At the same time it is not easy for a girl to say “yes”. That was my teenage years, and the time when breaking up is hard to do.
I remember during those years…
We do not have emails, but we were happy reading love letters.
We do not have skype or viber, but we felt really great with flying kissess.
We do not have text messages, but we receive love notes written on paper airplane.
We do not have #kiligpamore, but we are surely “kilig” seeing our crush across the street.
We do not have instagram, but we keep a small picture of him in our wallet (and make sure our parents do not see it)
We do not have malls to hang out, but a glimpse of our crush during Sunday mass made a goodnight sleep.
We do not have flashing clothes, fashionable accessories, imported make-up, but we were happy once our crush notice our natural hair.
Watching movies together is a difficult (or totally impossible) thing, but our heart beats fast seeing our crush in a crowded plaza during fiesta jamboree.
Being with our special someone overnight for swimming or party is difficult (or totally impossible), but we almost jump to heaven for few moments of holding hands.
We do not have android to see our special someone on cameras, so we missed them dearly.
During those times, there seems to be too many walls between two people who are in love. These same walls taught us to value relationships. Literally, these same walls made breaking up difficult. Emotionally, these walls made breaking up a hard thing, because relationships are built slowly, firmly, differently.